2-31: Effort Outlasts Outcomes
How Preparing Shapes Us
Preparing for a future that may not come is a common but rarely acknowledged part of growing older. We build toward outcomes that can stall, collapse, or reroute, yet the act of preparing still refines us. The investment of time, thought, and discipline makes us more formidable to face whatever challenges are next to arrive.
One example sits clearly in my mind. I woke up and flew to Miami for a day trip to interview with the portfolio manager and founder of the fund I was pursuing. I had prepared for at least a month and it was a big day. It went remarkably well, far better than I expected. Well enough that I waited patiently for a job offer that never arrived. Weeks turned into months, and eventually into an entire year. Shortly after my first in‑person interview, the fund began the long process of being acquired. These conversations consumed most of the year before they finally flew me back for a second interview and, at long last, extended an offer.
It was a challenging year as I awaited the second in‑person interview, which often felt like it would never arrive. The preparation I had done, from mock questions to refining my narrative, seemed like it might amount to nothing. In those months of uncertainty, each check‑in sharpened my sense of how to present myself and what I valued. Whenever I saw a plane overhead, I was reminded of the future I had pictured for myself and how distant it felt. Only later did I understand that the work itself had already reshaped me. I became more disciplined, clearer in my thinking, and more deliberate in how I carried myself.
Looking back, I like to think that even if the second interview had never come, I would have accepted that some futures do not arrive on schedule, or at all. I once viewed all of that preparation as a sunk cost because it did not deliver the outcome I wanted, or at least not within the timeline I imagined. Years later, I now see the work that was done as never wasted, even if the desired outcome never arrives. I experienced a new city for a day, learned the inner workings of a company I previously knew nothing about, and honed how I pitch myself in ways that carried into every conversation that followed.
This pattern is not unique to job interviews. We water seeds that never sprout, prepare for moves that fall through, and imagine relationships that never fully take shape. These imagined futures all teach us something about who we are. Preparation is not a contract with a specific outcome but a form of readiness that endures even when the intended destination disappears.